A Woman Who Knows Her Worth

Well, it's been a long time. But I had something to share that I feel people don't talk about enough.

I debated a lot about what to call this post, but I settled on "A Woman Who Knows Her Worth" because basically that's what it's all about. It's about me, and you. Whether you're a man or a woman, this is for you. Whether you know your worth or not, this is something I wanted to share. Because it isn't easy.

I don't know when or why or how it happened, but one day I realized that I am amazing. I am strong. I am capable. And hardworking, and worth other's effort. I made a conscious decision to no longer demean myself or to spend my time around others who were demeaning to me. The thing is, I found out really fast, that almost everybody in my life fit into that category. No wonder I wasn't happy, right?

Wrong. Once I decided to love myself without reserve, people became more critical and more demeaning. But because I was choosing to love myself, I could also make the decision to be happy regardless of circumstance. It made others self-aware, and some of them it helped to be happier, while strangely enough, others it seemed to make mad. In fact, one of my managers at work one day even yelled at me for "being too happy". I just smiled a little bigger, laughed, and moved on.

If you know you're worth it, it's hard because most people won't treat you as well as you deserve to be treated. They want you to stay on their level, and they will try to keep you there. They don't want you to stand out and excel.

In my case, I got a new job because I wanted to be treated with the same respect that I choose to give myself and others.

Another thing that can be hard is that if you haven't always loved yourself when you decide that you are an incredible person who should be treated well, people who you've had in your life don't know what to do. They can tell that something changed, but they don't know what it is.

If you are a person in the life of someone who loves themself fully, this is what you need to know. 

First, they love themself. They know their worth, and they don't want to be around others who treat them poorly or demean them.

Second, they know how to look out for themselves. These are strong people who aren't afraid to do what needs to be done. From my experience, they are some of the most loving people you will meet, but that doesn't mean they'll stick around.

Third, they aren't afraid to stand up for themselves. Even if it means leaving, these people have the strength to do it.

Fourth, if you treat them well, they will treat you well too. We live in a world where kindness is most often not reciprocated, but these people see people at their full potential and will treat them like they are already at it. They will encourage you, listen to you, stand by you, and love you.

If you know your potential, this is what I want you to know.

You're not alone. We live in a world where crushing hopes and dreams and "mediocre" living is the norm, but there are people who, like you, choose to stand tall under the crushing weight of society and live the best they can.

It gets better. At first, it's hard and confusing because nobody knows what to do with you, but when you love and respect yourself, others will follow. You'll attract others who will treat you as well as you treat you.

If you are a human being, this is what I want you to know.

Whether you know it or not, you are amazing. You have incredible potential just waiting to be realized. It takes work, but you can do it.

You are worth it. You're worth being treated well by others, you're worth your own love, and you are worth the best life you can give yourself.

Stand tall, be yourself, and don't be ashamed. There's only one you, so be the best you you can be.

Don't ever forget, you are incredible.

Love,
Me :)